"DATING TODAY"
Giving You The Tools You Need To Find The Love You Want
Dating Today is a Project Me Workshops curriculum for single women who want to meet Mr. Right and establish a rewarding and enduring relationship. You can access the dating information in this curriculum via webinars, one-on-one coaching, dvds or small group workshops. Enter your contact information on the Contact Us page to receive Dating Today emails including tips for single women and information about webinar or workshop dates in 2011.
This I Know To Be True
Premise 1: Any single woman who truly wants to find a wonderful partner to share her life with will be able to accomplish this goal.
Premise 2: It takes time and it takes effort to reach this goal. Many women give up.
Premise 3: The time and effort involved will be significantly less with more knowledge and a plan. By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” Ben Franklin
You Can Find Love… if you want to
How do I know that any single woman can find a wonderful partner? Just look around you. Single women of all shapes, sizes, ethnicities, socioeconomic levels, etc. have found the man for them last week, last month, or last year. You probably know someone who has found Mr. Right in the recent past. Why her and not you?
I was invited to five weddings in the last 16 months. Only one of those weddings involved a young couple recently out of college marrying their first love. Of the remaining four marriages, I know that at least one of the partners per couple at some point had questioned his/her ability to find another love. They are all very happy that they did.
Have you noticed the difference in a person who finally finds their special someone? Not just in the beginning stages of infatuation but even after the hit of physical chemistry has subsided. Their happiness seems to affect their whole being. They seem more confident, more outgoing, more centered, healthier and more fun to be around. You can be too.
Don't Believe or Rely on Romantic Myths
One woman who met a fabulous guy in 2010 told me that the key for her was in giving up. She had been searching for two years and had met a lot of losers. After she accepted that she could be alone for the rest of her life and that she was done with searching, she was at a restaurant with some friends when lo and behold- there he was!
This is an example of magical thinking that I hear from so many single women. It supports old myths that continue to stubbornly hold onto our psyches. When explored in more detail, it turns out that in fact when she saw Mr. Right, she approached him to strike up a conversation. How does that mesh with having ‘given up?’ So, in reality, she had not given up but had changed her mindset and her behavior… maybe you should do the same.
It's Time To Change What You Are Doing
I’m not suggesting that you begin scoping out men in local bars and restaurants and approach them to start a conversation but I do know that if you haven’t yet met Mr. Right and you don’t have a PLAN that is working for you, then you need to change what you are doing.
It IS Meant To Be
Another romantic myth I hear often from single women who have not met Mr. Right is that it will happen if it is meant to be. Yes, successful women who have accomplished a lot in life actually consider this possibility (thank you chick flicks, fairy tales and good friends who want to make you feel better). Clearly these women do not carry this same belief into other areas of their lives. How many women buy homes because it just happened when it was meant to be? Huh?
Being successful in love takes effort. If you are one of those women hoping that it will just happen when it is meant to be, you are really just giving yourself a pass on making the effort. It will be meant to be when you decide to make it happen and you have a plan to do so. Why not now?
The PLAN
Your plan to meet Mr. Right must include the following:
You need to Know who you are looking for. What characteristics does your Mr. Right need to have? What are the Must Haves and what are the Deal Breakers? ‘ I’ll know it when I see it’ is not part of a successful plan. Getting involved with someone merely on the basis of physical chemistry will result in you settling for someone who cannot meet your long term needs and means you’ll be back to where you are today (with another heartbreak in your history.)
You need to Identify all the potential venues where you can find each other and then you need to be there. Is he at the gym, attending singles parties, or searching for his next partner online? Successful dating is a numbers game. The more single men you are exposed to and interacting with, the greater the chance for finding the one with the characteristics you need.
You need to commit the time. We find time for the things that are most important to us and activities we enjoy. Most single women I know do not have a lot of free time and do not enjoy dating. Your plan has to include strategies for staying in the game and reducing the number of bad dates you experience.
You need to be flexible and open to new ways of doing things. Knowledge whether gleaned from self help books or dating coaches like me or personal experience is only beneficial if you are willing to look at things differently and step out of your comfort zone. You need to be willing to challenge some of your thought patterns and your behaviors that may be standing in the way of your success.
How I Can Help You
The Planning Stage: If you do not have a plan or have a plan that is not working for you, we can create it or revise it together. The help and advice of your friends and family members may be making the process worse instead of better. They love you and want to see you happy. They may not know how to steer you in the right direction or may be reticent to push you harder or be honest about what is holding you back. I don’t want to hurt your feelings either but I can offer objective advice.
Keeping You Grounded and Motivated: I can help you stay in the game by putting your experiences in reality based perspective. If you tell me there are no good men out there, I’ll tell you that is absurd (and help you stop saying that to yourself). If you say you’ve met 50 million losers, I’ll ask you to do your math again. Dating can be challenging but I’ll help you keep it in perspective. I know you can be successful and I’ll hold you accountable for doing the work you need to do to make it happen.
Not Letting You Settle: I know how easy it is to settle for ‘good enough’ in order to put the dating stage behind you. Lots of women have told themselves ‘no one is perfect’ or ‘everyone deserves another chance’ when in fact they should be trusting their gut and saying ‘thanks, but no thanks.’ In hindsight when a relationship fails, we easily point to red flags we should have picked up on. It’s my job to help you be smarter in foresight – improving your odds for happiness and decreasing your chances for heartbreak.
Free Advice For You
I want to help you and am willing to offer you two free offers.
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2. Schedule a free evaluation of your current efforts via a one-on-one 45 minute coaching session over the phone or in person. Call me at 954-562-5951.
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